Roman ‘Pushy Parents’
I’ve only recently discovered Mary Beard, and am already a massive fan. She’s a professor of Classics at Cambridge and recently presented a really rather brilliant television series on the Romans. She also wrote an amazing piece for the BBC on ‘pushy parents’ in ancient Rome…
According to Mary, Roman parents pushed their children to work hard from a young age out of both necessity and ambition. ‘Family planning’ didn’t really happen in Rome, so some families could end up with lots of children, and with many mouths to feed. Some families couldn’t easily afford to look after so many offspring so it was necessary to get all hands on deck and set children to work to help out. Skeletons of children have been found in workplaces like laundries, which show how they undertook challenging physical labour in order to contribute to the family’s finances.
Other parents pushed their children hard to perform well academically. A certain level of encouragement and ambition is great, but you can push your kids too hard… In Piazza Fiume in Rome you can see a replica of the tombstone of Quintus Sulpicius Maximus who died aged 11 because he worked too hard. A few months before he died he entered a poetry competition, usually entered only by adults, proving that he was indeed a very gifted young scholar. Although he was Roman, Quintus wrote his impressively long poem in Greek, displaying his flair for languages even at such a tender age. But it was his dedication to learning that sadly caused his death and at the bottom of his tombstone it says, “Sickness and tiredness tore me away because I devoted myself to the muses morning noon and night.”
I can imagine that it would take an awful lot of sleep deprivation and relentless studying to kill you, so poor Quintus must really have over done things in order to work himself to death. Hopefully nobody currently revising for exams is pushing themselves so hard that they are on the brink of collapsing! Balance is the key, so make sure you work hard and rest well at the end of the day too. Just be grateful that you don’t have to get a physically demanding job from a very young age like many Roman children had to do.
