The journey from Year 6 to Year 12 is full of changes: new schools, rising expectations, shifting friendships and growing independence. It’s no surprise that many students show changes in behaviour during this time. Some of it is part of growing up, but in other cases, it may be a sign that something deeper is going on.
Whether your child is withdrawing, acting out or simply not themselves, understanding what these transitions involve can help you support them more confidently.
Between the ages of 10 and 18, young people go through major social, emotional and cognitive development. Alongside this, they are managing big changes in their school environment and expectations, including:
Some students take all of this in their stride. Others experience emotional dips, behavioural changes or signs of stress that need attention.
These signs don’t always mean something is wrong. But when they persist or begin to affect school, friendships or wellbeing, they’re worth exploring.
While not always the case, persistent behavioural shifts can sometimes point to an underlying learning difference or unmet need. This doesn’t mean rushing to a label, but it’s worth keeping an open mind and seeking guidance if patterns are ongoing or intensifying.
1. Start Better Conversations
Generic questions like “How was school?” often go nowhere. Instead, try:
Keep chats casual. The car or walking the dog are good times when pressure is low.
2. Build Small Routines That Feel Safe
Routines help children feel grounded, even when everything else is changing. Focus on:
You don’t need a strict schedule. The aim is predictability, not rigidity.
3. Stay in the Loop with School
Speak with form tutors or subject teachers to find out how things are going in class. Ask about focus, participation and friendships.
Let your child know you’re reaching out. You could say, “I want to check how things are feeling at school. Would you rather I emailed your tutor, or we spoke together?”
4. Reduce Homework Stress
If homework is causing tension:
If they’re stuck, it’s okay to say, “Let’s flag this for your teacher tomorrow.” Showing it’s okay to ask for help builds resilience.
5. Watch for Overload
Even the most capable students can burn out. Look out for signs like falling energy, low enthusiasm or emotional outbursts.
Build in breaks:
Busy doesn’t always mean balanced.
6. Bring in Extra Support Early
You don’t need to wait for things to reach breaking point. A trusted tutor can often be the first line of support – helping to spot underlying issues, reduce stress around learning and build back confidence in a low-pressure setting.
In some cases, ongoing struggles with focus, organisation or emotional regulation may point to an underlying learning or developmental need. A trusted tutor, SEN lead or educational psychologist can help identify whether further exploration might be helpful – without jumping to conclusions.
If the challenges go beyond academics, involving a school counsellor, GP or private therapist can also be valuable. The key is acting early, before difficulties become entrenched.
Children and teens may not always say what they’re feeling. Often, the first signs show up in behaviour, sleep or schoolwork. What looks like laziness, attitude or moodiness may actually be stress, worry or low self-esteem.
By staying curious, consistent and open to help, you can support your child through some of the most turbulent years of their development.
From building confidence to easing transitions, the right tutor can make a meaningful difference. If your child is struggling, disengaging or simply in need of a boost, we’re here to help you find the right fit. Get in touch with our team.
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By Marketing Team